Tuesday, November 25, 2014

When am I allowed to have an opinion?

I honestly didn’t think I would have anything to write about this decision made by the Grand Jury. I knew there would be a “No bill” I listened to the facts, the witness accounts of what happened that night, and it all made sense to me. You can’t dispute facts, right? The outcry after the decision was not what I expected. I thought, for some strange reason… “Maybe everyone will get it? Maybe they will see why?” But how na├»ve of me.


See, I am completely biased, probably. I mean, I’m married to a cop. Not only am I married to a cop, we are a one income household. So, you could say that our entire life revolves around law enforcement. I’d accept that. I know because of who I’m married to, what typical police protocol is, and I also know, because of who the leader of my household is, that I also want him to do whatever he needs to do to come home at night. WHATEVER he needs to do.

Now, I’m not writing to go into detail about what happened, or even give a synopsis, because the entire statement is readily available for whomever chooses to read, and decide their own opinion. I would never say what someone thinks was right, or wrong, because we all have very different lifestyles. Not one person has experienced the exact same things, and I’m grateful for that. It makes us different. It makes us unique. It makes us who we are. What saddens me, is when my peers choose to tell others what they are allowed to express. I saw one post from one of my husbands facebook friends calling anyone who thought this wasn’t about racism was “simple minded” I don’t believe that to be true at all.

When the Trayvon Martin situation went down, my husband wrote his opinion on this blog. He was attacked. Many pretending as if they were speaking about “another blog post, written by a light skinned guy married to a black girl” but.. I digress. Some said, if he wasn’t “black enough” or lived the “black experience” he had no say in the matter. When I defend him, or state my opinion, I also have no opinion, because I’m “completely sheltered” and “haven’t lived the life that others have”

So, I ask this.. WHEN AM I ALLOWED TO HAVE AN OPINION? When is ANYONE allowed to? Because I want my babies to live in a world where they feel that their life is valid, I will share why I have an opinion. No one has lived my life but me. NO ONE. Not my husband, not my brother, not my children. Just me. I have had my own experiences, dealt with my fair share of disappointments, and injustices, and still I stand. I live. I love. I care. I think. I can say that at the end of the day, bad things happen. We don’t know why, but they do. And we move on. We learn, and we teach, and we grow, and we make sure that we do our best to be sure that nothing like what we experienced ever happened again, at least to the best of our ability.

Why can I say that about this Mike Brown situation? I had something taken away from me too, not my life, not my child, but my innocence. I was molested from the time I was 10 until I was 14 years old. By someone I trusted. Someone who was supposed to be a protector for me, to look out for me. And they didn’t. When I confessed when I was 20, only because I had a child of my own, he lied. Those who knew me, stayed by side, but those who didn’t, had no choice but to side with him. Do I care? Slightly. Is he walking around out of jail, with his kids of his own, daughters? Yes. Does it bother me? Absolutely. Do I slander everyone who has anything to say about being molested if they haven’t been? I don’t.

See, things happen when you go through something. Either you learn, or you wallow. I chose not to wallow. I chose to become a person that wasn’t defined by a situation. I chose to educate and mentor other girls, that may be going through the same thing and don’t know a way out. I trust less, but I love more.

I don’t write this to make it all about me, but I write as a plea to love more. Just because someone you know has had a different experience, or is a different ethnicity, or religion, DOES NOT MEAN that their opinion is not valid. And I say that from every direction in this situation. I ask you to be positive. If you feel hurt, turn that hurt into determination. Make a difference. Educate others. Think about the words you choose to use. Are they constructive? Think about the people you know, who could see what you write. Are you thinking about their feelings? Everyone deserves to be a little selfish sometimes, but do it without the heartbreak of others. We all have a voice, and we can all use it for something good.

Don’t let a situation define you. Don’t let it get the best of you. To my fellow LEO families, my thoughts and prayers are with you always, and may our LEO’s that make a positive difference in profession that very few respect, continue to do their job with integrity, and with honor. To my fellow black peers, I pray for you more than you know. To my fellow parents raising young black boys, and even girls, lets be that shining example for our kids and show them how to carry themselves, and how to overcome, and how to break the mold of the stereotype that we have so wrongly been given. But for everyone, I urge you to educate yourself, read facts. Do your own research. And remember, we will never understand God’s plan, but it’s not for us to.

I have a voice, I have an opinion, and I MATTER. We all do. No matter your race, background, or profession.

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Bundle of Banks do Disney, AGAIN!!! Part 4



Ah ha! Told yall I was gonna finish my Disney posts this year.. but omg this is day 1 of 7!! Bahahaahaha!!

We spent our first Day at Magic Kingdom. Last year, we had Mickey ears on our shirt wearing a Saints hat,

so this year, we had a Mickey Fleur de Lis, that said “Geauxin to see dat mouse”


Riding the bus!


Me and Megs. I love her!


We went straight to see Mickey! Brevin actually LOVES mickey mouse! He can be so upset, but as soon as he hears Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, he starts smiling automatically.

This year, the Mickey actually talked. It was so cool!



We had lunch reservations at Cinderella's Palace! We had two sleeping kiddos and thought it was hilarious.


This was the view from the back of Cinderella's Castle. And, oh yeah, food!

Have I mentioned how much I LOVE the dining plan!?!



All the princesses made their way around. The boys knew like none of them, oops.

Btw my camera died, so I had to use my backup that I pretty much only use for video. I was not happy. But the picks came out ok.


The food was delicious and the castle was gorgeous. We also got lots of souvenirs.

When we first came in, we took picks with Cinderella, and they gave us framed and printed pictures, as well as swords for the boys.





We were joking that since I was pregnant at Disney last year, it was Brendan's turn.



We rode everything we didn’t ride last year, thanks to our fast passes!





I LOVE the Disney parades!



When we got back, there was gift number 2 from Disney, toys for each boy, and Lightning McQueen cookies!



Next up, Animal Kingdom!


Wednesday, October 15, 2014


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Monday, October 6, 2014

Bundle of Banks do Disney, AGAIN!! Part 3

Sad news about the giveaway guys! It’s postponed one more week.

But this week I will be introducing all my amazing, super fantastic sponsors as well as what they will be giving away!!!!

I had a sponsor drop out last minute, but I have a replacement in the works!


Now who’s ready for more Disney MAGIC?!

I was playing no games this year. I wanted us on the road to Disney World no later than 5:00 am.

It’s about an 11 hour drive from New Orleans, so that would put us there around 4.

Thank goodness for my granddaddy! We were up and outta there by 5 am!!


Here is how we surprised the boys. One year we will wait until the middle of the day, when they are fully awake!

It was about 4:30 am, so they weren’t fully awake yet. I will post the video to our YouTube channel soon.


Florida orange juice! And Brevin just chillin!



I found this picture on Pinterest. This almost made me cry while we were on the way to Disney.

Travel is so important to us, because we want our babies to know that there is a whole world out there to be discovered!

We love our little adventurers, and we love being able to create memories, and go on

amazing adventures together!





Our resort was SOO AMAZING! And so darn cute! We stayed at Caribbean Beach last year, and we loved it.

This year, the kids were in AWE! Best part? CARS CHARACTERS! Because, duh, boys!

I actually got these pictures later on in the week. I strategically planned out how and when I would do pictures,

because there were certain shots I knew I wanted to get, and I didn’t want to rush them, or drive everyone crazy!


Here are some shots from around the resort!













We unfortunately had a phone call to Disney a while before we got there, that ended up with a VERY RUDE rep.

Which, is very uncommon for Disney. They compensated us with a series of gifts! It was soooo cool!

This was the first one on the first night!


We settled into our suite, and headed right back out to Downtown Disney for dinner with the Selods!

We ate at Planet Hollywood, and remembered HOW MUCH FOOD you eat at Disney! I was stuffed, and happy!





We came back to the resort, got cleaned up, and were ready for a good, comfy night of rest! Next day was Magic Kingdom!







PS- I know there are no Disney tips yet. I’m working on becoming a paid blogger for Disney travel. I will blog tips very soon! There are SO MANY POSTS ahead!